Spite and $10 Glasses of Wine
You did not misread the title, I also did not misspell. It isn't supposed to say SpRite and $10 glasses of wine or Spit and $10 glasses of wine. Just so we're clear.
Let's begin with spite, as in, cutting off my nose to spite my face. This is one aspect of my personality that makes me ever so fun to live with. Piss me off and I'll just one up you and make myself miserable trying to punish you! God, I'm fun! And borderline asshole. Aaaaaaanyway, Tate and I had a date planned last night since my in laws are in town and we actually had babysitters. In all actuality, I had a vision of a date in my head, complete with Tate having made reservations at a swanky, non-chain restaurant, me looking tall and slender in a gorgeous new outfit, and drinking wine and laughing over conversation that did not include the words tantrum, whining, or diaper blow-outs. The problem here arose when Tate arrived home and had forgotten about our planned date (and I'm never going to look tall at 5'2", I don't have any new clothes, and I'm completely unable to have adult conversation.)
Before grabbing your pitchforks and torches to go on a Tate manhunt, he is not really the bad guy in this story. Yes he forgot, yes he can be an oaf at times, yes he hurt my feelings, blah, blah, blah, but he felt really, really bad when he did finally remember. Upon remembering, he suggested that we go out after the kids went to bed. Here's where my spiteful self almost lost the proverbial nose.
I refused. I pouted. I said, "oh, but you hurt my feeeeeeelings." "You should have remembered." "If you had really wanted to go, you wouldn't have forgotten." "I will not go out to dinner with you." See? I told you I was borderline asshole.
But Tate was relentless because he knows of my spiteful, self destructive ways. He knew I wanted to go, he knew I wanted him to grovel. He's a good guy, forgetful at times, but good nonetheless. I relented and agreed to go out with him. Crisis averted.
Luckily I realized that just because he forgot, did not mean that we shouldn't take full advantage of our free (and rare) babysitting services. We went to dinner and semi-enjoyed outrageously priced seafood, slow service, and 3 glasses of wine (1 for Tate, 2 for me.)
When the bill arrived, we were shocked to see that the wine was $10 a glass. A GLASS. A GLASS! Ohmyfackinggodyougottabekiddingme! Keeping with my (previously) spiteful ways, I should refuse to drink any wine for the next month as punishment for consuming such expensive cheap wine. No wine for me! One month! But really, who is that helping? Isn't that just cutting off my nose to spite my face? I think I've learned my lesson.
Wine is back on my menu! Crisis averted.
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Oh, I would have KILLED Mr. C in that situation. Your patience and forgiving nature are a lesson to me. :)
And the wine, too. That could be a lesson. That I need to drink more!
wow. i'm sure i've had several conversations w/ The Mr. that sounded about like that.
i can turn the most benign, even wonderful thing into something grumpy.
and what's horrible, is i don't even know why, or that i am even doing it sometimes.
i'm glad y'all were able to semi-enjoy yourselves.
hope the wine was good for that arm (er, price).
Listen- I'm glad you've got some sense. Please don't banish the wine. It's necessary. Ok. Thanks.
By the way...the waiter didn't happen to have a gray tooth??
:)
-HH
Dontcha just love it when we get all bitchy? SO pleasant to be around.
And in SF $9 glasses, sadly, are very common. But they are BIG glasses, at least.
Better come to BlogHer next year with your own stash of vino.
First of all, you are my best friend! We are the same person. I swear. I act the exact same way. All the time. I frequently cross the border into full blown asshole.
And Maguire knows just how to handle me. It amazes me. He's like the most patient border patrol evah.
Second of all, here is a quote that helps me remember to not try to wreak retribution on the world, when the world is clearly not noticing:
"Bitterness and resentment are like taking poison and hoping the other guy dies."
I need to have that tattooed on my arm, because I always forget. God forbid Maguire ever leaves me, because I'll never be able to trick another sucker into this hot mess.
Glad wine has come back on your menu.. $10 a glass, wow!!:)
WHOA! Talk about punishing someone for going out to eat! I hate feeling like I've done something expensive. I blame myself instead of the jerks charging too much.
I understand the whole spiteful thing too. I'm glad you guys were able to enjoy yourselves.
We are so similar. I'm still trying to get back at someone from last November. And, wine is simply a requirement. Keep it on the menu. I hope you enjoyed the food despite the $30 in alcohol.
$10 a glass, but the glasses were the size of wading pools. Right? Oh lord please, right?
Wow, how often do you do this (make him beg/grovel/plead for forgetting something)????
$9 for a glass of wine, huh? That's why I don't drink the stuff and just stick to domestic beer.
Oh my facking god!
Be sure to tell me which eatin' hole that was so I'll be sure to never order wine that.
Unbelievable!
I bet the entire bottle of wine didn't cost them $10.
They're probably secret wine-haters and screw the wine drinkers on purpose. Maybe deep southern baptist owners or something.
On the plus side, you didn't drink over priced wine AND pay a babysitter. There's always silver lining!!
Focus on the positive - a night out. And wine. Lots of it. Better than a crappy night out and whine (lots of it)!
Pouting & recriminations & required groveling on the part of the offender?
Warranted, most definitely.
Am reeling over the $10-per-glass wine. I think any pitchforks should be directed toward the people responsible for that kind of markup. Sheesh.
I do not think you are in any way resembling an asshole. Because what would that make me? I shudder to think.
I hope the wine was at least delicious. And you don't need to be tall. Look at you - you're so pretty. Tall would make everyone hate you.
Glad you're back on the wine-train.
Choo choo.
whoa whoa whoa....who charges $10 for a glass of wine?????
glad that you actually got out of the house! we're going to be leaving the kids with my mom (she's coming to visit for the weekend) on Sunday night and we're going out to dinner and movie night with friends....i'm so frickin' excited i've actually started counting the days by scratching little marks into the wall! ;-)
damn! I keep losing my comment! sorry in advance if is shows up twice.
My husband has learned to preface everything, with "sorryI'madickdon't bemad!" they don't mean any harm, they are just guys.
doesn't a night out always cost like 3 grand?
time to unscrew the wine coolers and buy the nasty bag of wines again. maybe not.
I loves me some date nights. Sadly there don't seem to be nearly enough.
Umm couldn't you just write that wine off as a medical expense aka therapy ?
Im glad you still went out, babysitters are hard to find! I'd have grumbled too. $10 WINE!! Yikes! :(
Oh, I'm so glad that I'm not the only one who acts like this!
We are so alike. I would acted like the same spiteful near asshole that you were. At least you got over yourself and went out and had a good time rather than punish him, which really would have only punished you. But, damn, $10 wine? No neck massage with that or anything?
There's no way I could keep from going off on Aaron if he did that. You have amazing restraint.
And $10 a glass? Ack! Maybe I'm just a cheapskate, but that makes my eyes bug out just looking at that written out. Hope it was at least good wine!
I just wanted to let you know that when I read that title it said *spike* don't ask me why!
Yeah, and I've been a complete ass to my husband for the last few days (weeks?) don't know why on that either. lame.
Good thing I don't like wine.
P.S. I would have reacted the EXACT same way as you. Every step of the way.
That's hilarious! I would have done the same thing and then felt both ashamed and been pissed that I missed the chance to go out. I'm glad Tate forced you to go. And $10 for wine? It's steep, but I bet it was so worth it.
Oh, and I loved Megan's quote. I too must remember that.
You totally are allowed to Whine and have your Wine too. I know would have.
Hubs got us new cell phones and he got mine in black his in blue and told me he could've gotten me pink, but hates pink. I totally threw a fit as to why he would even think that I would want plain old black not to mention the fact he didn't get me pink. Though I'm not a girlie girl I still would've gotten pink. Sigh!
I am the same way so dont feel bad. $10 for a glass?? What the fuck? Were you drinking liquid gold or something? Dayum.
This is why I don't drink wine..... Oh, that and I cry....
and, that is why you always buy the bottle! much more cost effective :) I've never figured out how they get away with charging 10/glass when they might charge 30 for the whole bottle..
glad you made it to dinner in spite of youself!
$10 wine?! Yowza. This is when the cheap in me would rear its ugly head, insisting that we bring our own bottle and let them charge us a corking fee.
Charging double digits for cheap wine is how The Man keeps you down.
I so want some wine right now. See how helpful I am?
I'm glad you went, cause really, pricy ass wine and a babysitter who is free, kind of works itself out money wise. And I totally understand being pissed, but like I said, wine. :)
T and I have not been on a date in months. Actually, it's been since early March. We never get out alone because, like you, we have no babysitters.
I would pay the $10 a glass just to get out!
$10 a glass? Think i will stick to cheap beer :)
I would of put up a fight about not going to
Glad you got to go out without the kids! You got to go to a place that serves wine.... My ass of a hubby thinks Mc Donalds is a great date night meal!!!!
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